Struggling with anxiety and self-confidence plagues the lives for so many people! I’m not a doctor or anything, but these are the top four things that help me when I find myself in a right state (actually quite wrong, it’s no fun) of sheer and utter panic. Anxiety affects everyone differently, so what works for me may not help you. Nevertheless I hope you give these a try! And I certainly hope they help.
1. Close your eyes and count to 10 while taking deep breaths and letting them go slowly
2. Look up at the great, big blue sky and try to focus entirely on that
3. Give your panic a color and picture it in your body wherever you feel it most (for me it’s my stomach). Then think of it slowly spreading throughout your body, until it disappears
4. Take a good ol’ whiff of lavender. It has calming properties!
Some of these may sound weird (I’m thinking of you #3), but they have all helped me at least a little bit.
Or maybe you want to learn more about managing your money?
I recently came across a fantastic YouTube channel called The Financial Diet that can help with budgeting, credit card no-no’s, and even interviewing tips.
They share their personal experiences as well as their audience’s. I will admit that I didn’t think I was into it when I first watched one of their videos, but then I found myself two hours later still watching their videos. *Enough said* Not all of the topics are fun per se, but all of their videos are extremely helpful and I would argue that they make what is otherwise depressing topics enjoyable. I’ve learned so much from their videos. If anything, it’s given me the confidence to put myself out there a little bit more in interviews (bleh) and has helped me to save a little more.
How do you know whether a risk is good to take or not?
I mean no one can tell the future so who knows if it’ll work out right or not. Is it good to take when, once you take it, you “make sure” it works out? Ie you’ll stop at nothing until it does? Or is good when you have a viable back up plan in case it doesn’t happen?
I really don’t think there’s any way to know if something is good per say. Only time will tell. Besides, there’s more than one path that leads to fulfillment. Nothing is just good. *Well, except rainbows and sprinkles and glitter and ice cream* You just have to decide whether the risk is worth it, to you. It’s your decision and you have to live with it.
So when you make that tough decision or close call, stick to it. It’s your choice and in the end you need to do what’s right for you.
I had not known before
Forever was so long a word.
The slow stroke of the clock of time
I had not heard.
‘Tis hard to learn so late;
It seems no sad heart really learns,
But hopes and trusts and doubts and fears,
And bleeds and burns.
The night is not all dark,
Nor is the day all it seems,
But each may bring me this relief—
My dreams and dreams.
I had not known before
That Never was so sad a word,
So wrap me in forgetfulness—
I have not heard.
I love this poem. Even though it was written well over 100 years ago, there is still the same amount of feeling within the words. I love that about words. By themselves they’re something, but smushed together they transform into something more beautiful and unimaginable that never fades. Or as others might call it – *pure poetry*
P.S. This poem is in the public domain. I found it on the poets.org website , where you can find so many other works of magic!
From my experience, this is so true. Eventually you have to face up to whatever is bothering you because it will become much worse if you don’t. Whatever you’re afraid of will still be there. Take action and resolve it! That’s the only real way you’ll feel better. Avoiding the situation does nothing. It just draws out whatever you are dreading. And that’s no fun!
I really like this quotation. It’s a reminder that falling apart is okay, which, if you’ve read pretty much anything I’ve ever written, you know is something I struggle with. Rebirth or whatever you want to call it is necessary sometimes. It’s how growth happens. Kind of like rebranding of a company, if you’re into that analogy. Or renovating a home in disrepair. You just have to have the guts to place that first brick.
I know I’ve posted so much about this topic already. The death of almosts is just another way of saying fear of failure. I thought the quote above was stated rather eloquently though, so I wanted to share it.
This post is a pledge to do what I can’t. To put myself in the ring, even if I get knocked down. I will do what I am afraid of and I will succeed eventually! So here’s to the death of almosts! May you seize the day and with it your fears :)
Feminism has been a buzz word for quite some time. But it seems like there are various definitions out there, some making more sense than others. From my experience, people are hesitant to call themselves a feminist because there are often negative connotations associated with it. You’re almost singling yourself out, putting yourself in a specific group. There’s nothing wrong with that. This is simply a post about what it means to me.
From my perspective, feminism is the belief in equal rights for both men and women. That’s it.
It’s no secret that women are treated differently in the workplace. Statistically they make less money for the same work that men do. There are less women in science and technology. Less woman CEOs. Less startup companies led by women. It’s a cultural thing, sure.
Feminism is the belief that that should change. And maybe that scares some people. Maybe that’s why there’s so much backlash? Because that means there’s more competition? I don’t know. I have a hard time seeing it from another perspective than my own.
Women have contributed so much to the world already. For example, the computer would not be what it is today without Grace Hopper (COBOL computer language & the first compiler *big big big deal*). And the list goes on. Just like it does for men.
This isn’t meant to be a rant or preaching or anything like that. I believe that feminism is synonymous with the belief in equal rights…for everyone.